In this day and age, it is not uncommon for platonic friendships to blossom between a guy and a girl. However, in many cases, one or the other actually harbors a crush for the other individual in the friendship. If this is the case with you, perhaps you are interested in learning how to exit the friend zone and turn your friendship into a relationship. In this article, we will discuss how to do just that!
1. Change How You Treat Your Friend
When we say to change how you treat your friend, we don’t mean to become a different person. But think about how friends treat each other. It’s easy for a friend to not know of your romantic feelings if you do not make it clear in some way. Rather than meeting up for beers and pizza after work, ask if you can take him or her to a nice restaurant and spend the evening together. If you feel comfortable doing so, or your friend is the female, bring flowers to impress her with. This can help to set the mood, and let your friend know what your intentions without too much pressure on you.
If you want a friend of yours to know that you have romantic feelings for him or her, it’s important that you not send mixed signals, or treat them like one of your other buddies. If you are not sure how they feel about you, letting them know in little ways, like being courteous, holding the door for them, or sending them a sweet good night text before bed can help put the ball in their court.
2. Sit Down and Have a Heart-to-Heart
One of the best ways to get out of the friend zone is to sit down with your friend, and let them know how you feel. You may be surprised to learn that they have had a crush on you for some time too, but perhaps were too shy to let you know, or thought sharing their feelings would change the friendship. In some cases, your friend may not have looked at you as more than a close buddy, but after letting them know how you feel, they could see you in a whole new light. You simply won’t know how it will turn out until you try.
When you do have a discussion with your friend, be respectful, kind, and above all, be yourself. The fact that you have developed a friendship with this person means that they like you for who you are, and if a relationship is possible, they will want you to continue to be yourself.
One point worth mentioning is that you should not attempt to break up your friend if they are already in another relationship. If you have reasonable cause to believe that a relationship with this person would be possible, then by all means, go forward with letting them know your feelings and intentions. If they choose to stay friends with you, respect their decision.
3. Be Someone Worth Dating
No matter who you date, it’s important to be someone worth dating. Be kind, be a good listener, and be respectful to your friend before you begin a relationship, and he or she will have a better time envisioning a future with you. Being a person worth dating is not only essential to beginning a relationship, but keeping a relationship healthy and successful as well.
In conclusion, if you don’t want to stay in the friend zone forever, there are steps you can take to help your chances of starting a relationship with your friend. In this article, we discussed changing the way you treat him or her, such as not treating them as you would another one of your buddies. We also discussed sitting down with your friend and letting them know your feelings to see if a future with him or her could be possible. We also discussed being a good person, and being someone worth dating to help your chances of your friend seeing a relationship with you. Following these steps can help you to get on the path of a truly rewarding relationship with your friend. Good luck!